Cross roads of love

You don’t love somebody expecting or asking to be loved back in the same way. It’s not a market transaction when the quantity it’s placed on scale and reduced to a fixed value with interest like a heart loan. The sacrifices and feelings you pour in front of your partner shouldn’t be used as a currency and pressure to get the same thing back. The moment when you ask to be loved because of what you did and went through for somebody breaks an untouchable magic and makes God angry. All that purity and beauty of love turns rotten and poisonous. Dark clouds are rushing over the relationship and that special connection is gone. The hell begins to build itself with confidence.

Ryan Gosling ‘s character in Blue Valentine expects to be showered with warm affection from his busy stressed wife and demands it as if it’s the easiest thing to do. But love comes and go. When it starts to step back you have to dig hard to discover why and then to work building its main structure again.  But not all of us have reached maturity and wisdom in love matters. Experience helps you understand things but the lack of it might doom your love. How should two people communicate and find a common ground. By avoiding to be too selfish, listen well your half and find a common talking channel.

Love is crazy, foolish and it’s not directed by mind and ruled by intellect. You can’t control it choose the time it comes and who’s the person that the arrow will find. But context and timing can affect it in a difficult way and that’s the case with our couple from “Blue Valentine”. They’re both lost and in denial and they start to really see and understand each other in the last scene of the film in the kitchen. The ending can be perceived in two ways: either they’ ll start to respect each other more and reshape their marriage or just get a divorce. But there’s hope… and you can smell that perfume.